How you can support someone through their diagnosis

Supporting someone you love with pancreatic cancer can be heartbreaking and confusing, and it’s normal to feel unsure about what to say or do. 

What matters most is that they don’t face this alone - and that you also get support for yourself.

How to talk about it

Try to follow their lead. Some days they may want to talk openly; other days they may not. Use simple, honest language, listen more than you speak, and don’t feel you need to “fix” things - being present and willing to hear them is often enough.

How to be there for them

Show up in small, steady ways: offer lifts to appointments, help with meals or errands, and check in regularly. If things feel heavy, we offer a counselling service in partnership with Cancer Focus (find out more below).

How to tell children

If there are dependent children, we can signpost you to Cancer Fund for Children for family support. And if you want help with what to say and how to say it, the Family Centred Cancer Care resources at Ulster University offer clear, child-focused guidance for these difficult conversations.

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